The more confident you are, the more desirable you will appear. You donʼt have to feel social or have a strong desire to be active.
Just fake it til you make it (even when you want to cancel at the last minute).
‘Always seem excited about the future, not laden down with the past.’ ‘Do tell a funny, embarrassing story about yourself. If you like him, save it till after sex.’ What am I going to wear? ‘He asked you out because he fancied you,’ says Sullivan, ‘So wear something that’s sexy and comfortable.’ (Yes, it is possible, no not your silky pyjamas ).
There are many "dos and donʼts" that singles need to observe relative to parties, gift giving, and define-the-relationship conversations over the holidays.
‘Do aim for something to do on a first date, like a walk by the river,’ says relationship and first date tip expert Elizabeth Sullivan, aka The Love Mentor. The more at ease you are the more likely he’ll follow suit. ‘Do smile more than usual and laugh if you like him,’ says Sullivan.
‘Pick a route where you know there’s a nice pub and, if it’s going well, stop off. ‘Make sure he knows you’re enjoying yourself.’ (Do we need to spell out that there are limits to the smiling/laughing thing?
One of the best ways to combat depression, anxiety, shyness, or loneliness during the holidays is to think of others and to invest in making them feel great in some small way, whether through service, inviting them to do something with you, or just listening intently and expressing your love.
Doing this can make a huge impact on your holidays especially if you also guard yourself against the temptation to compare your life to others. My husband and I pray most every day for the future spouse of each one of our children. While I might not be a big fan of dating, I remain a devoted fan of love and marriage.Engaging in the comparison trap almost always ensures that you will compare your troubles and trials to other's strengths and blessings, making you feel worse about your life (not better).If you want to feel peace and happiness this holiday you canʼt afford to be distracted by the marriages, children, possessions, talents, or blessings that others have. Then we had our own 8 children and before we knew it – the subject of girls, boys, love, and marriage came up. While it’s tempting to try and tuck love into some tidy box, it will never work like that. Rather than depending on someone else’s “step-by-step”, listen to the Spirit and how He is guiding. The world wants you to think that your happiness depends on finding the perfect guy – or girl. If you are a believer in Christ, then your joy is found in Him. Read the classic love stories found there, follow the instruction of the New Testament, and don’t forget the wisdom found in the book of Proverbs.