This is the time to let go of this relationship and prioritize taking care of yourself so you can recover from the devastation of a surprise attack, heal, and move on. You might feel good for about three seconds but as soon as you hang up the phone you’re going to think of something else you want to say, which will lead you right into an endless loop of phone calls.
But what if you legitimately to be friends afterwards? Just because you didn’t work out as lovers, it doesn’t mean that you can’t be friends – even Let’s start this off with some straight talk: you’re not going to be friends for a while.
How do you navigate the complicated waters of a post-break-up friendship? Yes, there are people who say that they were able to slip straight into a friendship after they broke up without missing a beat.
The fact of the matter is, even with the most amicable splits, you’re going to need time to mourn, to heal and adjust.
Your relationship has just ended and that deserves to be observed.
Or it could dredge up, over and over and over again, what you’ve lost.
Either way, it’s going to keep you stuck, in pain, and closed off to meeting someone new. Being dumped, especially unexpectedly, is painful, and you can avoid feeling that pain by starting to date again right away.
There are also people who win the Mega-Millions lottery with a single ticket.
Just because it’s theoretically possible doesn’t mean that it’s going to happen to you, and betting the farm that you’re the exception is a very good way to end up without a farm.
Questioning whether you were completely out of touch with reality, you search for red flags you may have missed, look for everything you could have done wrong, and long for answers.