“Getting drinks or doing dinner and a movie prevent a lot of natural conversation,” says Jessica, a graduate of Rowan University.“If you go on more of an active date, there is a greater need for communication.As a man who has a wealth of experience with the opposite sex, I’d like to share my thoughts on why the “dating” scene is the way it is these days.
Finding out that your date is obsessed with hardcore rock when you’re a devout indie girl is more of a factor than you might think.
This can be the hardest thing to do, but after you’ve been dating someone for a bit, getting into deep conversations will keep you much more interested in the relationship than just having small talk all the time.
It’s easier said than done, but ultimately, if your crush is going to become your long-time SO, then both of you need to break out of your shells.
“I’ve struggled a little bit with being open on dates, but I would say that it's helpful to just be yourself and play to your strengths,” says Rachel, a junior at Roosevelt University.
For example, comment on the food you ordered if you’re at a restaurant, or maybe make a comment about a billboard you pass by for a movie.” Little comments like these create avenues for topics of conversation.
Saying that your chicken is underdone may spark your date to talk about a time that he had a horrible food experience.Sometimes being shy is a struggle, but that’s who we are and we should embrace it. And now, we can be ourselves and still make it in the dating world.I recently read the article posted last month entitled, “Why We Need To Start Dating Again”.Many of us have to muddle our way through the ordeal of dates with overwhelming people that don’t give us time to open up, until we finally, *sigh*, just give up on love. A recent study showed that watching Netflix with bae is actually good for your relationship. “When you like the same stories, shows and characters, you have a lot to talk about!The study concluded that when you watch TV and movies or read books, you think about what's going on in the story and form opinions, which allows you to have a great conversation (or maybe argument! It feels like an immediate connection,” says Nathalie, a senior at SUNY Old Westbury, “Plus if it's something both you and your crush love, the conversation could go on forever!“I would say that you can't go wrong with talking about the weather. Obviously, small talk is not limited to the weather.