One of the greatest traits black women have is our loyalty. Interracial dating has been one of the biggest conversations within the black community.Its duplicitous and ridiculous and I would encourage all white/non-blk men who are genuinely interested and open to partnering with black women to avoid chics like that like the plague.
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But…not for that white individual white man, who should have offered to leave his family, be disowned, fired and black balled from his job, risk his freedom and life, and with no income, no family, an arrest recorded and possible gun shot wounds, would walk off into the sunset with his black female mate and live off nothing but sunshine and air. We dont have to scrape the bottom of the barrel for ANY man, but after GENERATIONS of giving our ALL to bm who gave us nothing back, I think we are bit out of order to now expect non-blk men to show up be EVERYTHING we never demanded black males be.
Anyone who brings up The Lovings as an example of a man who risked everything for the love of his wife is using the exception that proves the rule. Not even to stick around and help raise HIS damned children. Black women demand more of white men as some form of COMPENSATION for his not being black. We demand more from white men as some form of PENANCE for the him not being our ideal BLACK man. I think black women are bringing our POOR VETTING SKILLS over to nonblk men and dont even know it. Any black women who is expecting random white men to APOLOGIZE for the oppression of the black male – oppression (which she secretly believes that individual white man is responsible for) that has DENIED her access to the type of BLACK man she wants – by expecting said random white men to make it up to her by being Hercules, Brad Pitt and Bill Gates all in one, needs to have a serious discussion about what they TRULY feel about non-blk men. Im amazed at how black women feel the need to make white men apologize for racism, but feel NO IMPERATIVE to make black males apologize for their sexism & misogynoir.
This can sometimes translate into a lack of even that racism exists and is experienced by others.
A romantic relationship is supposed to provide a safe space for individuals to express their feelings and come to terms with their life experiences.
There are MANY pros for dating/courting/marrying/mating/partnering with black women. My suggestion to wm who are looking for a black woman to love would be to make sure she is not using you in some strange reverse Black Love scheme – where she gets to live out her Race-First SJW imperative, not by fighting “the system’ in abstract, but by using her influence to convert a single white man for the cause.
It is NOT your responsibility to center your primary love relationship around race politics. Follow Christelyn on Instagram and Twitter, and subscribe to our You Tube channel.To put it bluntly, many White people simply have no idea what they are getting into when they begin relationships with people of color. If you don’t believe racism exists, don’t date interracially.To raise awareness of the issues such individuals may encounter, I decided to write this list. While confined to the realms of “Whiteness,” a person can remain ignorant to the experiences of racism that constantly leave people of color feeling diminished and undervalued.I recently did a survey on a group of black women regarding their reasons for not dating men who are not of color.Through my findings it seems as though black women aren’t actually opposef to dating outside of their race.The focus on “Racism” with non-blk men is ridiculous in the face of all the UNaddressed bm sexism that black women live EVERYDAY, but never seem to feel the need to be at the forefront of their relationships with black males. To join her private black-woman-only email list, click here.