Many Hispanic women will give answers that are incomplete and insufficient without further follow-up from you. How will you react when your partner does something small or big that you don’t like? It is much easier to say that I am not learning because I don’t like something, than it is to admit that I am having difficulty learning because it is hard for me.) Do you think you will have any difficulty learning English? (Very few Colombian women on the coast smoke cigarettes and they are not frequent drinkers, so when they do drink they get intoxicated quickly.) Do you have a tattoo? Are there certain procedures you do not believe in because of moral or religious grounds? What would be your thoughts if you had gained four kilos in one year? Name the most important materialistic element in your life. If a fire destroyed your home and all of your belongings, what would you do? If you were to get a job, what would you do with the money you earned? If I lost my job, what sacrifices would need to be made and what personal sacrifices would you personally make? (Most Colombian women have no experience managing money. Do you think a healthy relationship can survive without trust? If not, what makes it difficult for you to trust others? If your sister-in-law was cheating on your brother would you tell him?
For example, instead of saying, "Religion is very important to me, please describe your faith in God." Ask the question without exposing your position or feelings toward the topic. " and follow-up with a why you do or do not go to Church. What place do you believe religion has in the world? What religious training would you like your children to receive?
Make the exchange of questions enjoyable and entertaining. Which religions or beliefs are acceptable in a partner? What if your child adopts a different religion, or shows no interest in religion at all?
We provide the women with similar questions, but Hispanics are not an inquisitive culture, and you will get less inquiry from them. For many Colombian women, studying is not the means to pursuing a professional career, the career is studying.) Do you have a curiosity for learning? Almost all the Hispanic women will express a desire to learn. What is your favorite color, number, flower, animal, scent, outfit, song, music group, dance, movie, actor, book, quote, musical instrument, car, dessert, drink, game, hobby, sport, holiday, Christmas memory, gift, nightclub, restaurant, place, thing to do, etc.? (Knowing the answers to these questions is mostly sentimental. Having the status of divorced is not desired and at one time divorces were more difficult to attain and so many couples would simply separate and start another family even though they were legally married to someone else.) Were your parents demonstrably affectionate with you or one another? What kind of relationship do you have with your siblings? What were the major medical events for your family? Most of the women in Latin America do not have regular check-ups or a clear understanding of the causes of illnesses, and therefore they have more medical problems. Can you give me a recent example of a rise and a fall in your mood? These boyfriends could be ex-boyfriends, male friends they are having sex with, a boss, married men, men that don’t want a commitment, or men she doesn’t want to commit to.
The learning and questions should be ongoing, and her actions should coincide with her answers. What feeling do you have the most difficulty expressing? Can you tell me an example of this curiosity at work? You should pay for lessons, state your expectations, and determine if she can contribute transportation, attend lessons during holidays (a frequent occurrence in Colombia), and be on time. Many of us have been in the situation, or maybe just me, where our ignorance of what our girl likes is used against us. She’s right, how could I possibly love her without knowing this? So know it, and when you give her a nice lavender pen, it’s because, Honey, I knew your favorite color was lavender. Did your family have any struggles as you were growing up? Were you ever sexually, emotionally, or verbally abused? They may believe they got sick because it rained or that watering the garden after ironing caused an illness or that entering an air-conditioned room after being outside on a hot day made them sick. Do either one of you have any habits or tendencies regarding health that should be discussed (for example, smoking, excessive dieting or weight, drug intake, or lack of exercise)? It is probably best to operate under the assumption that she may be having some type of relationship.
Unless you want to make many trips to Colombia to find a wife, it is best to determine who fits the criteria you have for a wife by asking the appropriate questions early and often.
Only when both the husband and the wife have true compatibility and love will a marriage prosper and last. The sample questions we provide below along with your own follow-up questions (why, when, where, who etc.) will help reveal your compatibility with potential partners.
The timing for the questions is important and will of course vary depending on the stage of your relationship.
For the group introductions, keep most of the questions and conversation light, fun, and spontaneous.
You won’t have the casual up-close dating rituals of knowing and understanding your girlfriend that we are use to.
Your short visits to Colombia will require a different approach in evaluating the many Hispanic women you will meet.
Once you start falling in love your body chemistry changes, causing you to have obsessive feelings towards your partner and blindness to any red flags or flaws in the relationship. What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done? How would you tell your parents and friends we met? (It is important that you meet her family and friends, but it is best that she does not have her friends tagging along on your dates and that almost all of your time is spent as a couple, not in a group. Do you take responsibility for your actions and admit your mistakes? If you were really in trouble, who would you go to for advice? If not, do you have any hesitation about learning to drive? What are your attitudes toward issues of race, gender, and sexual preference? Under what circumstances would you yell at your partner? Can you give examples of impolite behavior you have seen in others that you would never do? Are you open and direct with people so they know exactly how you feel and think, or do you prefer to hide feelings that may hurt someone’s feelings, start an argument, or create an awkward situation? Most Latin women have fire for passion and for fight if they feel they are being taken advantage of. If yes, do you believe most Colombians are punctual (they’re not)? Are you comfortable in a social setting where you meet people for the first time? Some women are not capable of learning English and it is best for you to find this out early. They fry a lot of food, eat too much rice and potatoes, use too much oil, salt the meal as if they were preserving it, cook meat until every bit of moisture is gone, eat a limited variety of food, and have limited experience cooking with a variety of ingredients. How will your parents feel about you leaving the country? A good looking woman is not going to be alone for long.) What issues do you believe should remain between you and your partner only?