In 1960, only 5 percent of Republicans and 4 percent of Democrats said they would be bothered if their son or daughter married someone from the opposing party; by 2010 (the last year for which data is available), that number had leapt to 49 percent of Republicans and 33 percent of Democrats, according to a study by polling firm You Gov.
“In a nutshell, when it comes to the dating pool on the right, swipe left.”But for others, falling for a political foe doesn’t have to mean submitting to marital discord every four years.
In the recent, not-so-fiery past, Democrats and Republicans didn’t always consider each other deal-breakers.
My partner knows I had an abortion prior to meeting him, and when we found out we were pregnant, abortion was a choice we discussed at length and contemplated with no remorse.
He was, and continues to be, supportive, understanding, and quick to argue for every woman's right to choose.
When Nicole Morrell met her now-husband, Jim, in the summer of 2002 at Capitol Lounge, a Washington, D. dive bar filled with Hill staffers, she was a fundraiser at the Democratic Congressional Campaign Committee and he was a Republican working in the House of Representatives.
During the courtship that followed, Nicole recalled, there were nights out with friends when discussions grew heated over “stolen” elections, redistricting, or Al Gore winning an Oscar.“There were more nights than I can count when we would finally decide to call it a draw and go to bed when the sun came up and we were still arguing about policy decisions and who was to blame for the latest failed or passed piece of legislation,” Nicole said. It wasn’t that long ago that we stayed up much too late arguing about U. corporate tax policy.”Spoiler alert: Love transcended party divisions for the Morrells, even as Nicole went on to serve as a trip director on John Edwards’s presidential campaign, and Jim worked for President George W. (Nicole now supports Hillary Clinton, while Jim was for Marco Rubio but is now undecided.) Because Nicole grew up with a Democrat mother and Republican father, her own bipartisan relationship didn’t seem so crazy to her.
“Back then, it was a less divisive time,” Amy said. This election year, Amy and Frank, now in their 30s and the parents of two, live together in a house divided.
As the political landscape grows ever more partisan, “our disagreements have become more apparent, more divisive, and more confrontational,” Amy, who supports Hillary Clinton, told me.
A successful New York couple I know—we’ll call them Amy and Frank—escaped the last two presidential election seasons unscathed.