If they're not, then you have a very awkward stretch of time to fill up.
To desperately search for love at an event with a clock ticking means you pressure yourself.
You become less of the type of person you are as you try to find someone who fits this image you have in your head of "The One." That was my problem with speed dating: the reasons I had for doing it were vastly different from what some would say is the purpose of speed dating: to meet other people.
As a hybrid Filipino-Portuguese-Chinese-Spanish type, I sheepishly replied to each one, " (No, I'm a Filipino)." Some were disappointed, others were amused, but for 3 people practicing their English with women to color the experience of every other guy at an event without intending to, that was a stroke of devious genius on the organizer's part.
Wrong reasons, wrong time I said at the start of this piece that one of the reasons I tried speed dating was because I used it to find a meaningful relationship.
A time-bound experience Imagine meeting a woman for the first time.
You shake hands and talk over drinks while trying to find the right words to make them want to talk to you longer than 15 minutes.
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In hindsight, that was not the best way to approach speed dating, and everything I wrote above was how I used to perceive it.
As Janina Suarez wrote previously, it's best to not have any expectations.
I want to know what a meaningul relationship means for that other person, and whether our individual thoughts on the matter align.