I’ve described this kind of thing as people wearing a pretty “mask” at the beginning of a relationship and how, if you know about this, you’ll make sure to see the person behind the mask (and not mistake their pretty “mask” as who they actually are).
When both of you are convinced that you like each other, you can both “drop the mask” and start acting like yourself, fully.
He already knows you’re not going to go out with other guys.
He already knows you have decided to be exclusive to him.
The excitement is on thinking about all the things they like about you.
The fear is rooted in insecurities: What if they don’t like me as much as I like them?
For instance, if a guy says something like “I like you so much” or whatever during the early phases, he very well might mean it, but he also wants to see how you’ll react.
Specifically, he’s checking to see if you’ll say that you feel the same way.
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I’m not saying they’re genuinely interested in you too.
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