Chances are though he is probably seeking chemistry of the physical nature which in and of itself is not wrong if it just means pure attraction.
Get to know these guys as much as you can through e-mail, phone calls and conversations (which are a great way to “meet” those you’re interested in).
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Anyone that God is bringing to you is worth the extra time in building a friendship.
Now some men may joke and say they are too old to wait too long. You will never regret building a friendship—a friendship that can be in your life forever.
I am not feeling comfortable with what I am doing or what I am to discern as maybe a red flag other than the obvious. Maybe I was supposed to only get to know one man at a time, make a decision and move on to the next?
I think my lack of experience has gotten my focus off of the real issues, but actually what is the real issue other than a man who loves Jesus with all his heart. HE SAID: Online dating has become a serious mainstay as a viable alternative to finding a mate at any age.
As for your gentleman friend seeking “chemistry,” I would inquire as to what kind of chemistry he is referring to.
I have had great spiritual, emotional and intellectual chemistry with friends of the opposite sex, which has resulted in amazing plutonic relationships over the years.
The beauty of online dating is that you can communicate with several suitors at the same time until you find the one you would like to pursue or allow to be pursued by more seriously.