Go to a place where you used to laugh or where there’s a good chance of laughter.That moment when you exchange a look and end up laughing, often over a shared memory, is the best way to understand each other again.
Appreciate what life still has to offer while you can.
The great wonder of middle age is that we know our time is now limited.
One of the more ridiculous myths about “true love” is the idea of the soulmate – that there is someone out there who is your perfect match.
A good relationship is about navigating the numerous differences between you – over politics, food, money, how to raise children.
Try to establish a friendship with the most sympathetic of your in-laws who can be your defender, if necessary, when you are not present.
An ally in the family can also fill in aspects of the past that may help you to understand your partner. If you’re tempted to check your partner’s inbox or online history, stop, talk to yourself (whatever the psychologists say, it’s good for you).It is possible to maintain a happy sex-life for decades with the same person.It may not be as often, or the sort of sex that you think you should be having, or think others must be having (but aren’t) – just relax and enjoy this special kind of intimacy together.It’s natural that attention shifts to the children, but it’s a good idea to remember why you are together, and have a child together, in the first place.It’s possible to make it work by setting aside a time in the week and asking a relative to mind the children. Invest in the relationship with your partner’s family. Keep yours smooth by remembering birthdays and anniversaries, by butting out of family disputes, and by never forcing your partner into the position of taking sides with you against their mother, father or siblings – those relationships go back a long way.A good laugh is like good sex: spontaneous and uninhibited and an act that unites two beings as one.