I was able to identify where it was coming from and the need that these emotionally unavailable guys were fulfilling within me, and once I got to that place of clarity, they completely lost all appeal to me!
For Green, it was his only second ever encounter with racism in 20 years‘I am dating a man who helps me buy groceries, wash laundry, and even clean my apartment even though he has other things to do, works 40 hours a week, and it’s not his job.
I am dating a man that holds doors open for me and everyone else behind him EVERY TIME.‘I am dating a man who has never been arrested, and doesn’t walk around acting like a fool.
I am dating a man that will eat hot cheetos with me while binge watching netflix. There were also comments about how ‘disgusting’ she and Ra’Montae looked together in photos, how one day she will end up as a single mother of five living on welfare, and how her parents did not raise her right.
I am dating a man who tells me I look pretty in glasses and pajamas that I haven’t taken off for two days in a row.‘Why do people care? Young and in love: In her post, Ashlyn (pictured here before her tonsil surgery) described her boyfriend as a man who is hardworking, responsible, who's never been arrested and who loves her unconditionally Ra’Montae works at Protection One as a monitoring representative.
As women, we’ve been told for as long as we can remember that love will save us …
that a relationship is that missing piece we need to complete our lives.
but not so much on whether I was even ready to be in a real relationship. It took a few years and many epiphanies before I got to the right place internally and sorted through what needed sorting. But I’m also the first person to give you a dose of honest truth and help you along the sometimes daunting road to get to where you want to go.
And with that, let’s take a look at the most glaring signs that you aren’t ready to be in a relationship.
In her personal essay titled, 'I am not dating a racial slur,' Ashlyn writes that she and her boyfriend, Ra'Montae Green, have been together for two years and have never directly experienced racism as an interracial couple.