As I mention in my online dating e-book, when I started out, I had no clue what I was doing, and my money was going down the drain each month with no results (or girlfriend) to show for it. Click on any of the options below in order to go to that section. One of the main downsides of this site is that you have to pay to be able to have decent search functionality.
I realized over time that I was signing up for the wrong sites and, therefore, was not putting myself in the best position to succeed. The websites I recommend below (by niche group) have been thoroughly researched and are the ones I recommend as you embark on your online dating journey. Nevertheless, if you run out of options on the sites above, sign up for this website, and see what happens. It doesn’t have the breadth of features and comprehensiveness that you will find on and eharmony, but it allows free users a high level of features and functionality, something uncommon on the biggest paid sites.
If you are in the United States (or even Canada), eharmony is the first site I would sign up for.
I found love on a Cupid Media site (Brazil Cupid.com).
With that said, I would use this site as a third option if your two options above don’t give you the results you were looking for.
Okcupid.com: I used several times in the past and have never had success with it.
It is 100% free to use and 100% low quality in my view.
I can’t tell you how many messages I sent as a member of this site without getting a single response.
Nevertheless, it has a massive membership base and I have friends who give it much praise (maybe they have the magic touch), so it is worth adding to your dating site list as a last resort.
BBWCupid has the usual awesome, clean interface with all the functionality you will find in my most favorite sister site, Brazil (for people living in Brazil).
This site for plus-sized people is fabulous and has lots of members spread across the U. A quick search of women aged 21-35 who live in the New York area will return over 1000 profiles. If I were starting a dating search for black people, I would start with and then go to this site after the well has run dry.
The best online dating sites in the United States have millions of members. is so great for online dating because there is a site for pretty much any niche or interest you can imagine. is that you have millions of singles to choose from. I used this site for two years while I was living in New York and had quite a few dates.