"Both said that this was a really common phenomenon: that dating sites have a notoriously low number of gay women, and that gay women are unlikely to flock to those services, ever." they exist, but even if you find one, the odds that she's your age and single and you connect with her on any romantic level at all are slim to none.
Heterosexual dating app
Sure, straight-focused apps like Tinder and Bumble allow for same-sex swiping, but, for gay women especially, that often leads to matches who are just dabbling in same-sex hookups or are looking to plan a threesome for their boyfriend.
My friend Laura, 27, who identifies as queer and has been out for about seven years, says that while these dating apps have allowed straight and questioning women to explore their sexualities more, they're also a risky endeavor for queer women.
"On one hand, it's great that these girls have a venue in which to explore their sexuality safely, but on the other hand, I've learned a few times on first dates with women I met online that they've never been with a woman before," she says.
"This is not necessarily a problem, but sometimes it's hard to gauge if someone is feeling experimental versus being very much past that stage." A straight-identifying friend even told me she sometimes turns her Tinder to women-seeking-women to chat with women even though she'd "probably never do anything." Enough false-positive matches like that would turn anyone off.
Daatch's Google page reports primarily one star reviews, with one commenter saying, "The most useful thing about this app is finding all the lesbians complaining about it (me included)" and another saying, "Poor app, wouldn't let me upload pics and wouldn't save text, even had trouble to close my account. " The app later received $1 million in funding from investors and was rebranded as Her, which CEO and founder Robyn Exton says currently has just under one million users, and a much-improved 4.5 star rating on i Tunes.
The only other dating app for queer women to get much press at all was Scissr, whose rating in the i Tunes store is comprised only of 1 and 2 star reviews with one user saying, "Good concept but most users are inactive and the filter options don't work," which sounds like every queer dating app I've ever encountered.She might not think the first few guys are her type, but she could swipe for a few hours and probably find 15 guys she'd at least hook up with.And it's not a problem for gay men; about 70 percent of them report dating someone they met online.Lauren O'Reilly, Director of Marketing at OKCupid, says that of their current 10 million active users, women seeking women only comprise 7 percent of that.But the good news is that since the site expanded their gender and orientation options, they've seen a 7 percent rise in female LGBTQ users, suggesting that many women may have felt stifled by the need to identify as one gender or one sexuality, which could also be an issue when trying to get queer women on a lesbian-specific app.He says that dating apps rely so much on people who are nearby, and if those people aren't there immediately, people will leave the app.