Statements are made about how the relationship must have been pre-ordained and/or how the scammer has finally found that one true love of his or her life after searching fruitlessly for so long. Often quick declarations of love and/or affection are made as well as the strong desire to be physically present in the victim’s life. Usually after the first or second contact (if not before), the scammer who is some sort of entrepreneur, engineer, or has what most of us consider a high profile occupation which requires travel, will advise the victim that he or she must travel overseas (usually to a country in West Africa – Nigeria, for the most part, but Ghana has become a scam hotspot as well) for business.he scammer will tell the victim that he or she will be away from a few weeks to a few months and so the face to face meeting must wait.
All of this is created with the unknowing help of the victim and designed according to the answers we give to the questions the scammer asks.
After the relationship is solidified in the scammer’s mind and he or she is fairly certain that a victim can be controlled through the feelings of love and care that have been established, the money part of the scam occurs.
his person that one loves is still “stuck” in a foreign country and can’t wait to get on that plane to finally come home and spend “in real life” time with the true love of their dreams – their future husband or wife.
he romance scammer will keep trying to get as much money as possible from a victim until the victim can no longer afford to send money or until the victim realizes that their “loved one” has been running a con and is never going to come.
Even when the shock wears off, it is a long road to healing and many never admit what happened to them.
hey are too humiliated and embarrassed to admit it to any friend or family member though often are forced to because they now need financial help or will need to move in with a relative or friend to avoid homelessness.
It is a huge misconception that people who fall victim to this crime are lonely, fat, ugly, desperate or any of the many things we tell ourselves to feel better and assure ourselves that it could never happen to any of us. It is a hidden, dirty little secret we often keep to avoid being made to feel even more ignorant and stupid for becoming involved and having been taken advantage of in this manner.
I can assure you this crime crosses every type of line we in civilized society have created.
he romance scam begins usually with personal ads placed on internet dating services.