” or “Is his interest in porn a sign that he isn’t satisfied in the relationship?” At the core, the reason women ask me about men and porn is because they want to know if it’s a red flag about his feelings for to have sex, but if he doesn’t ejaculate after a certain amount of time, his body will do it for him. One day, he is caring and loving and wonderful, and the next he is hateful and raging and mean. You are afraid to talk, or when you do talk you feel like you are never heard, your words are taken out of context, misunderstood, or blatantly ignored. In the beginning of a relationship they might seem like everything you ever wanted….usually this is because they are trying to act like everything you ever wanted. You have no support group and therefore your partner gains more power. He or she might be mean to people they think are “below them” or people who are defenseless, like babies or children.
Dating cops bad idea
When a woman realizes the biological burden (and secondary social-shame burden) men walk around with, you can understand that a man’s sexuality is something he has to deal with and take care of frequently. So if the thought of him watching porn intimidates you on some level, then finding ways to genuinely enjoy sex with him more might be helpful.
Let’s switch gears now to the other part of your question…
Then add a layer of the shaming our society likes to put around sexuality and you can understand why men run to their private porn retreat… Most men find the typical “porn stars” to be kind of over-the-top and artificial…
they want relief from the throbbing, relentless biological cravings. it is far more sexy to by with a real woman who is genuinely turned on and into sex.
You might want to go to the movies–your partner will make sure you go out to dinner instead. He or she might even brag about the fact that they have left a trail of tears behind them.
You might be terrified of what your partner will say or do if you tell them. He used to put you up on a pedestal…and now all he does is try to tear you down. From little things to big things, you feel like your partner never listens. They lie about things they don’t need to lie about. They can swear on their life that they are not lying. A healthy person is consistent in the way they treat people, regardless of their status. Your partner has a bad reputation or a tradition of “messy relationships”.
Even if you were perfect, your partner would make you out to be completely messed up. They can be funny, easy-going, exciting, attractive. You feel a pull to them, and they make you feel special. They act as if they are the smartest, hottest, richest or most successful person and everyone knows it. You did something wrong first to make them explode.
If he or she does something that is clearly wrong, they will find a way to turn it back around on you. They will even tell you this if they get the chance. The police have always been out to get them even though they never do anything wrong.
I did something and I admit I was wrong for doing it, but I went through my boyfriends e-mails and found a video that he had made and an e-mail that he sent to another girl saying sexual things. OK, you’ve got two separate questions going on up there, so let me address each thing individually. When you get down to it, you have to realize that men are biologically different than women, as is what they respond to sexually.