In fact, I encourage you to go after your goals in life.However, attraction is at its Think of it like a dance.I like to measure my success by the progress of escalation throughout the date.
Make no mistake – men will die for it – so don’t think he’ll easily give it away.
It’s what led brigades of men to charge the beaches of Normandy in WWII and defy the odds against heavily armed forces. Here’s what this means to you ladies: if a guy feels like you’re trying to metaphorically "enslave" him..your hooks in him..his freedom..limit his choices..will rebel, disappear, put up walls or “need some space.” Perhaps that sounds familiar? The reason I shared the movie scene description is because it viscerally drives home my point and you can even see it here if you want a powerful reminder: You never want to try to limit a man's options too soon; it just makes you seem needy.
I like to tell my clients that the goal of the first date is to get a second date.
If they do that, things seems to go smoothly and the appropriate things (good conversation, laughs, and attraction) fall into place.
Here’s the problem: Simply put, men and women have two of their highest and deepest needs in absolute, total and direct conflict.
As a result, it creates a real disconnect from the very beginning stages of their relationship..exact time when their relationship lacks the stability or trust to compensate for the challenges. The long-term effect of this one mistake often causes women to stack disappointment and heartbreak until eventually they begin to demonize men, or even worse, question their own value and worth.I teach my clients how to avoid it – and the results speak for themselves. Feminine energy’s number one need is to feel “safe” before anything else can even happen.She may feel intense attraction fueled by chemistry – but she can’t have connection unless she can set fear aside and open in vulnerability (which is another whole new topic).If you have a story to tell or a lesson to share and you’d like to contribute to our site as a guest, please email us at [email protected] we’re a great match, we’d love to tell you more about joining our family of writers.Slow and steady escalation is always a good indicator on how a date is going.